Relationship Therapy
I work with couples and people in non-traditional relationships in person in San Francisco and online throughout California. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership, newly navigating commitment, or in a poly, ENM, or open relationship, therapy can offer a space to examine entrenched patterns and make room for more honest connection.
Relationships don’t become strained because people are doing something “wrong.” More often, they become constrained by unspoken fears, inherited scripts about intimacy, or ways of protecting ourselves that once made sense but no longer serve the relationship.
Who I Often Work With
I work with people in relationships of many forms who care deeply about one another and feel caught in cycles they can’t quite interrupt. Many of the people I see are thoughtful, reflective, and committed to growth, yet find themselves repeating familiar conflicts. These often involve difficulties with communication, mismatched desire, or fears of abandonment.
Others are seeking structured space to strengthen what’s already working while navigating the inevitable shifts that happen over time, as relationships and the people within them continue to change and grow.
I have particular experience working with queer, gender-expansive, and non-monogamous relationships, including poly and ENM structures. For many, part of the work involves untangling relational needs from dominant cultural models of partnership that were never designed to fit their lives.
What Brings People to Relationship Therapy
People often reach out when conflict escalates too quickly or gets avoided altogether, or when intimacy feels distant, whether emotionally, physically, or sexually. Others come because they are navigating transitions such as opening a relationship, renegotiating agreements, repairing trust, or responding to changes in desire or health.
Sometimes the question is not whether a relationship should continue, but how to listen more honestly to one another and to oneself while staying connected.
How I Work
I approach relationship therapy as a collaborative process that centers curiosity and accountability. Rather than assigning blame or teaching scripts to follow, we work together to understand how each person’s history, nervous system, and relational patterns shape what unfolds between you.
In our work, I often draw on emotion-focused approaches that invite each partner to identify and speak from their emotional experience. This can feel unfamiliar at first. Conversations tend to move more slowly. Over time, partners begin to hear one another differently. There is more room to notice what is happening in the moment and to stay present during difficult conversations. Connection and intimacy often begin to feel less effortful.
Next steps
I offer relationship therapy in person in San Francisco and online throughout California. Sessions are typically held weekly.
If you’re wondering whether relationship therapy might be helpful, I invite you to reach out. We can talk briefly about what’s bringing you in and whether this feels like a supportive place to begin. Questions about fees, scheduling, and logistics are answered in more detail on the FAQs page, and I’m also happy to address them directly.